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Last week, we talked about integrating an open heart as part of a larger conversation about motivation.
The energetics of motivation can be best described as the way we filter and channel raw universal energy through us and express it as us.
Part of energy's intrinsic nature is its movement. It moves, channels, manifests, expresses, and transforms, and consciousness facilitates the witnessing and experiencing of this alchemy.
It's quite amazing, really. We don't know why this happens or even too much about how it happens (although quantum physics is getting closer!), and most of us don't question or consider the facets that make up the fabric of our reality.
When we experience motivation, it is the energy flowing through us that we feel and channel to express across the six different frequencies of consciousness: Nature/material world, relational, somatic, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual.
Our ability to control or influence the energy coming through has four components:
Openness and constriction relate directly to our heart chakra (for lack of a better term). This is where we can choose the flow rate of this energy through us. However, how open or closed we are depends directly on the resistance we are experiencing across all six frequencies, conscious and unconscious, from internal blocks creating a form of non-physical gravity and inertia, making the patterns and loops we experience as thoughts, emotions, and physical sensation in response to a situation, circumstance, interaction, or trigger.
Whew. That was a mouthful.
We have one other choice, and that relates to allowing the energy to move fully within us, changing the landscape. This is grief.
Grief can be subtle or shattering. The intensity we feel in these moments is the shift of our internal landscape as we surrender entirely to letting go of an idea, belief, identity, person, relationship, etc., that either no longer exists or serves us. It requires inner transformation, a new self-definition, and a transformed point of self-reference to emerge.
Some emotions you might feel that are potentially indicative of needing to grieve someone or something are sadness, sorrow, confusion, anguish, guilt, numbness, bitterness, yearning, and regret.
On the other side of a conscious grieving experience is relief, hope, acceptance, and increased resilience within the new definition or container.
What keeps us from grieving? Fear. Fear closes our heart centers and throttles the transformative process. Grief brings the unfamiliar, and that can be scary.
But when we step into it, fully surrendering, we allow more openness, expansiveness, and love to manifest on the other side.
How do we facilitate grieving? There are five steps.
First is awareness. Awareness that something needs to be let go of and grieved.
The second is expression. Let it move. Allow the energy to move through you as big as possible to express as much as you can. Visualizing the energy pouring through you, churning, and moving through and out can be helpful in this step.
The third step is directly related to the second: surrender. Consciously stay open in this process to allow the inner transformation to occur. It can be difficult and painful, but it is essential to allow grief to move and transform the internal blocks impacting your felt-sense experience of life.
This is the "only way out is through," and you must "feel it to heal it." Transformation only comes with complete surrender.
Once you have released and expressed, a sense of relief and expansiveness often washes in. This is when you want to integrate, which is the conscious cultivation of new thoughts and energy loops into your daily life. What are you learning? What needs do you have? What do you want to plant in this new container of consciousness?
This brings us to the last step: renewal. Self-compassion, self-love, connection, and care are all essential energies to tap into in this open state. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace, and give others grace. This healing stuff is hard sometimes, and you're doing the real work here.
When you're considering implementing this approach, there are a few things to keep in mind to ensure psychological safety. The grieving process can be overwhelming and you want to avoid flooding your system and potentially traumatizing yourself.
Creating containers for this process can be helpful, giving it a beginning and an end. There are four key pillars to support you in facilitating safety while grieving:
- Compassion
- Self Care
- Ritual/Ceremony
- Support/Connection
So, if you are looking ahead with the intention to be open and vulnerable to this process, make sure you are compassionate with yourself, exactly where you are. You don't need to change. You don't need to heal, as there is actually nothing broken about you! When we connect with how energy moves within us, we tap into space to co-create our reality. We empower ourselves to steer the ship of our consciousness to where we want to go, turning off the autopilot for a time while we re-program it to be more in alignment with our core values and personal mission.
A note about ritual/ceremony and grief:
Rituals and ceremonies can help contain and direct the energy of grief, creating a defined space for processing and relief. This might involve creating a personal and private ritual, participating in communal ceremony, or simply marking the grieving process with a symbolic act.
Engaging in a ritual for closure, such as lighting a candle, writing a letter, or performing a symbolic release (for example, letting go of something physical that represents the grief), can help energetically signify the end of one chapter and the beginning of another.
This week, let's build awareness of opportunities to engage with this powerful energetic process with these reflection questions:
- Awareness and acknowledgement:
- What does it mean for you to fully acknowledge your grief?
- Reflect on a time when you resisted the grief process. What was the impact on your energy and healing process?
- How can you create space in your life to be present with difficult emotions?
- Expression:
- What does emotional expression feel like for you? Are there strategies that are more effective for you than others?
- How can you support the expression of grief vs suppression? What practices facilitate staying in the expression as it unfolds?
- Acceptance/Surrender:
- What does surrendering to the grief process mean to you? Consider the experiential difference between 'surrendering' and 'resignation.'
- Describe a moment when accepting your grief led to a significant shift in your healing journey.
- Reflect on the energetic difference between surrendering and control during difficult emotional experiences. How can you build awareness of the sneaky seeping ways that control edges into your experience?
Through this process, we can connect with more peace, patience, and presence, allowing our authentic selves to emerge unhindered.
I hope you have a beautiful, integrative week!
xoxo,
Amanda
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THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE!! Let's heal ourselves and go heal the world together ❤️.
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